Failure has been knocking on your door and you’ve let it start ruling your life. So you didn’t get the jobs that you applied for, you aren’t in a relationship at this time and this has caused your self-confidence to come crashing down around your ears. “I’m not worthy, I’m a failure, I’m not smart enough, I’m stupid…” bounce around your head constantly. You need to stop this type of thinking and do not give it credence in your life. Life is like riding a rollercoaster, full of ups and downs, when things don’t go the way we want we take it as a blow and allow it to affect our self-confidence.

Despite what causes us to have self-confidence issues, when you reinforce the negative thoughts you are only internalizing your worthlessness. You have to get away from the negative self-talk, make sure that you do not repeat things such as “I’m not smart, I’m ugly” etcetera. Your sub-conscious mind will respond to what you feed it, so if you give it negative food then your sub-conscious mind will work to cause you to live the negative suggestions. By constantly repeating negativity you are in essence causing your sub-conscious mind to shut down the areas you are negative about. So when you say you are not talented you are shutting down your creative side and so on.

When you find that you are talking or even thinking in a negative tone, you need to replace it with a positive tone. This will reprogram your sub-conscious mind and start getting rid of old negative patterns and will look for ways to execute the new positive affirmations that it is receiving.

You can change the negative patterns that you have created with a few simple techniques.

Go to a quiet place with no disturbances, no phones, no children, no radio and no television. Take 10 deep breaths in through your nose and exhale slowly through your mouth. This will help you to relax as the tension leaves your body. Let all the tension go, and then with your minds eye, see yourself as a successful, intelligent and respected person. What do you see? What are you wearing? Is there a big smile on your face?

If you cannot see this, then think of a time that you were successful or pretend that you are…act it out, put your emotions into it. Can you hear how others are praising you and you will say to them. Observe what it feels like to be successful, intelligent and respected. Feel the warm fuzzy sensation, the butterflies in your belly and the pleasant tingling in your head.

Now you should see yourself smiling. Your sub-conscious mind is now switched to a positive state and is ready to receive the positive suggestions. You should say, “I will get this job finished in time” or “I will get that job I want”. Stand in front of a mirror and repeat these suggestions slowly to yourself 2 or 3 times with conviction.

Get ready for your journey by pre-thinking and memorizing some positive suggestions before you begin your positive self-talk. You need to write them out and commit them to memory. Your positive affirmation should be short and easily remembered, to the point and reasonable (stating you will be the president of the US immediately is not reasonable).

You can anchor your positive affirmations and self-talk to actions such as squeezing your earlobe or snapping your fingers. This helps you to remember your suggestions more easily. For example if you snap your finger every time you repeat your suggestion, the eventually you will be able to recall the suggestion at will. This is an easy way to stop the negative self-talk habit.

You will obtain the best results by doing your positive self-confidence exercises on a daily basis. Do it every morning and again every evening before you go to bed. Do not let the negative thought re-emerge just because you do not notice results immediately. It takes time for your new way of thinking to take effect and once it does you will be amazed.

You need to remember that you create your own reality with your thoughts and words. You need to be careful with what you say because you do not want to create a negative environment that will cause you to lose your self-confidence.

Tags: Personal Growth, Personal Success, Self Improvement